Ladies, can you be bought? Fellas, are you buying?

[llcoolrich]

Lets be honest and real for a minute and skip the Disney movies,

Ladies love getting gifts from their man whether its designer handbags, jewelry, or trips to exotic islands and some men, love buying their women gifts (even if they are broke) perhaps to get her to depend on him, or to solidify/reinforce the relationship.

Not all relationships go there, but some take it to another level where the women measures their man's gift to how much they "love" them and men rely on the gift they get to shut them up.

Both guilty as charged.

So, what are your opinions on that? Ladies, Can you be bought (indirectly)? Fellas, do you keep supplying your chicks so you can keep getting some cutty so she dont go nowhere else?

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For me, I don't spoil women I'm in a relationship with. Check the definition of spoil. Don't get me wrong I buy gifts but I don't do it to a point where they expect it all the time. I'll intentionally ignore/forget that its V-day and plan something very very good the next day if she starts expecting stuff, thats just the type of person I am. When I buy them something, they better appreciate it too(especially if I took a lot of time, thought, and $$$ into it). ie if I got her flowers on a random day and she complained about it because she wanted roses instead. Don't give me that princess/diva shit. That doesn't fly with me. So the answer is no, I don't buy my women I'm in a relationship with. If I did, its a slap to their faces.

On the other hand, girls I don't want a relationship with, yes. Most of the time, those girls (usually dime pieces) already know whats up. Either you have the money or you don't. "My man better have a job. He's going to take me to the mall and I can have whatever I want. On valentines day, he better come up big. The ring my man gets me better be equivalent to a month and half of his pay." Any of those sounds familiar? I guess they get what they deserve by indirectly prostituting themselves like that. I call them chicks HTO for High Turnover Rate lol. You cash, smash, and dash. You are a fool if you stay with those type of girls, fellas! That is not the girl you go to for love.

Thats my 2 cents.

[RAZOR_BLADE]

If I can afford it, I'll buy it. If I can't, then I won't. "What they can do for me, I will do better for them." Well....most of the time.

[Mizz_Luv3r]

If I'm not feeling you whatsoever, no amount of money will win me over. I can't say no to small little cute gifts though....lol

I have to say I like to spoil my man. If you love that person enough, you'd feel like they deserve the best of everything everyday. I'll buy dinner or what not for guys I "date", but I'll never buy my way into a guy's heart.

[T.Wizzle]

the best gifts are the ones you never expect. and usually, it doesn't cost much either.. for me, even the smallest details mean a great deal to me. heck, i appreciate any gift from a guy or girl lol.. even for my daughter. if i guy wants to spoil me, i won't complain.. but love means more than that. but i think i spoil my bf more than he gets me anything. probably why i appreciate any gift, bc i don't usually get any :/ people always ask if my bf buys my designer handbags for me (can't help it, i love purses) but nope.. all with my own money. bahh.. what am i talking about.. i needs to find me a sugar daddy!

[polin]

rofl at your philosophy of cash, smash, and dash. I thought that was the most entertaining part of your post. I'm not going to pretend i am not guilty of doing such things because i am. In all honesty, i grew up and i dream of starting my own family and having kids. sure i got money laying around buts its not for taking a pretty face out to dinner in hopes that she'll fuck me. its obligated towards something more tangible like a house, food for my family, things of that nature. i guess ive been lucky i never really had to wine and dine a lady to get her to like me. i dont think its necessary. that goes for men and women, if you have to give up something in order to feel loved your going to end up a bitter and lonely person. love cant be purchased or solicited. its very natural either you feel it or you dont. and once you grow up you will know the difference between lust and love.

[ILoveOysters]

The hottest thing would be when you give a girl the key to your heart and her eyes light up. Key to your heart - free?
Seeing her eyes light up - cost you the key to your heart

[SunnyBlack]

If ur ballin' y not..money comes n goes..easy come easy go..but if u work hard for ur money, better be more wise bout ur spending..btw, ain't it 3 months salary rather than 1.5?

my homie recently met a girl who's relatively new still to the country from her native vietnam..she's the fobby type I guess n he hasn't even known her a month yet n already wants to change things bout her starting with the way she dresses..so he's gonna go out n buy her new clothes to his liking..is this wrong?.I don't see nothing wrong with it

if I liked a girl I'd buy her things if it made her happy or just brightened up her day when she's feeling down..but the most I've spent on a gift for a girl I liked was a G..anything over that she wud have to have wifey status

[SunnyBlack]

The hottest thing would be when you give a girl the key to your heart and her eyes light up. Key to your heart - free?
Seeing her eyes light up - cost you the key to your heart

a master key that cud open any lock is priceless..but a lock that wud open for any key is a shitty lock..lol -my homie talking bout the double standard for guys n girls..so lol but true tho right?

[Username]

Their are Ladies out there that make bank, I mean stupid amounts of cash. They will not sit there and let you pay for them, or let you buy them things, when they know that they are making more than you, aim high fellas. These Ladies are a rare breed that do not come by very often.

[LaReine]

I dont want anything from my man really. All i need from him is good sex and for him to pick up after himself!!!!

[Username]

I dated a girl many moons ago that made more money than me, she use too slip me cash before we went out so I can pay for both of us, for meals/drinks etc. Splitting a tab was a no go for her, especially when we where around people. Society norms, what can you do.

Now that I have a little extra cash I buy, they deserve to be treated like woman.

[Sovie]

Yes, I can be bought. Highest bidder please step up.

[Samster]

No, I can't be bought.

IMO, when a guy spoil/spends too much on a girl the value of everything shifts.
Money loose it's value and love can't be bought.
There has to be a balance.

[chillingrsx]

I don't know what type of girls you run into but those girls you described seem snobby.

As a young man like you in your early 20s and dating girls in that age range, you will run into a lot of them. Can you blame these women for being that way? After all, a lot of guys they previously dated before you always treated them like a princess. They want something, they get it. Most of the time, they don't even ask for it, but these guys just give them anyways. So who are we to blame? These guys they been with trained these girls to be like that. The media also affect them to be like that. They tells men to wine and dine the ladies if they want to win their heart.

When u love a girl, you don't care what to get for her. You got her things because she DESERVES it. Men have to realize that MONEY CAN"T BUY love(well it can, temporarily). Don't make it a habit that she's expecting something every special events happening.

Love is a two street. Here's a secret that every man should know. Every girl, even the sweetest and nicest CAN'T HELP it but to take advantage of men if these MEN LET THEM. Remember, know your ur balance. Too much or too little of anything, never works out.

[Sovie]

^^ "deserves it"? Wow! Why is it that everytime you talk about girls, you put us at the same level as animals? I can't help but be offended when I know you don't mean to be. Or at least I hope you don't.

I really believe that people attract those that are like them. If you flaunt money you will get the gold diggers. If you want a serious relationship where money doesn't play a role then go out there and be a real person.

Don't do things because you think you need to but do them because you want to. Relationships are best when things are natural. Don't over think but just live. It's in those genuine moments that real memories are created and those are what will be cherished over the gifts.

[chillingrsx]

^^ "deserves it"? Wow! Why is it that everytime you talk about girls, you put us at the same level as animals? I can't help but be offended when I know you don't mean to be. Or at least I hope you don't.

I really believe that people attract those that are like them. If you flaunt money you will get the gold diggers. If you want a serious relationship where money doesn't play a role then go out there and be a real person.

Don't do things because you think you need to but do them because you want to. Relationships are best when things are natural. Don't over think but just live. It's in those genuine moments that real memories are created and those are what will be cherished over the gifts.

I don't know how u get the ideas that I'm putting women on the same level as animal. In fact, I think women are the greatest creature God ever created for mankind. It must be your guilty conscience or something. I love, adore and respect women especially the good ones.

[Sovie]

I don't know how u get the ideas that I'm putting women on the same level as animal. In fact, I think women are the greatest creature God ever created for mankind. It must be your guilty conscience or something. I love, adore and respect women especially the good ones.

Guilty conscience? Why am I guilty and of what?

I never assumed anything of you. If you read further I actually give you the benefit of the doubt. I just feel that the language/words you choose to use sometimes can be a bit demeaning. It was an observation more than an accusation.

[dfinedbeauty]

gifts are nice every now and than but not necessary, the best gift a man can give is his abilities to listen, handle his business and take pride of his girl and a real woman don't worry about being a dime, because a true gentlemen doesn't carry change anyway.

[soulmate]

mi amor, where ya been all my life? but hold up. let me get my crew to call your crew. and we can do sushi. ok, pumpkin?

Angkor Beer.

Yes, I can be bought. Highest bidder please step up.

[Ivan]

Lol most girls will say no, but almost all like getting things for free. I personally don't buy things for females I'm casually dating, unless I actually want her to have it.

[serendipity]

Jason rarely spoils me. He only buys me things I NEED. For example, so far he's gotten me a computer chair, laser printer, media player, keyboard etc. I love him for that. Just the idea that he already knows my old 'gadgets' weren't working for me, so he replaces them with better ones

[gaykhmerguy]

I think that with women, you can get away with a lot of things. You can cheat, beat, verbally abuse them, or disrespect their parents, and you can get away with it much of the time. What you can't get away with is not buying gifts. That's where the line is drawn and if you don't buy her something, she walks out. Men buy gifts because it works and expected.

[LaReine]

Ok, seriously. My guy used to try to spoil me, material things and such....but i told him i dont want him buying me stuff to show affection (because thats how he grew up), then when J Lo's song, Love don't cost a thing came out, he got the clue what ive been telling him...n started showing affection throughother ways. Its nice once in awhile, he'll get something just to show he thought of me, but excessive spending isn't exceptional.

[Ivan]

BroTip: To see if a women is genuine, give her a tacky ass gift and see if she'll appreciate it 'cause its from you or get mad lol.

[llcoolrich]

I'm glad to see the majority of the people here have good intentions. You are all good people