Domestic Househusband

[LePrince]

MEN IF YOU COULD PUT YOURSELF IN THE MINDSET OF A WOMAN, HOW WOULD YOU ANSWER THE POLL? PLEASE FREE TO VOTE.

In many cultures around the world, it is expected that men are the bread winners and women are the domestic goddesses. Women control the upkeep of the house and the children, while the men go out and work to support his family financially.

When it comes to cooking and cleaning, some men and women believe that it is the job of the matriarch of the household. Is a man feminine when he knows how to clean the kitchen and the bathroom, do the laundry, cook, etc.?

I've heard some women say that they prefer to be the housewife. Is that because they've never had a man take care of them or help out with the household chores? Do they prefer being the house wife because they feel it's tradition or that they can do a better job at holding the fort at home?

Why do some women prefer to take the reins when they're at home. On the other end, do you as a women feel that, yes, your boyfriend or husband SHOULD help out around the house?

Review Questions:

1) Is a man feminine when he knows how to clean the kitchen and the bathroom, do the laundry, cook, etc.?

2) If a woman prefers to be a domestic housewife, do you think it's because she's never experienced a man taking care of her?

3) If you prefer being a housewife, is it because of tradition?

4) Is it just because you think you'd do a better job at it?

5) Why do you prefer being a housewife?

6) Why not?

7) Would you want a man to share the household responsibilities evenly with you?

8) Generally, do men in our society do enough for their family? (Is paying the bills enough?)

[gaykhmerguy]

1) No, it means he's a keeper. Jack of all trades. Smart, independent, reliable, etc.

2) No, it's because women prefer what's safe and what they're familiar with. Also, it's easier than getting an education, getting a job, and working day in and day out. There's not much pressure in being a housewife and much of the time, you're doing nothing. Nowadays, much of it is playing on the internet or watching dramas.

3) I would love to be a housewife. School and work sucks. Love asian dramas.

4) Anybody can be a housewife...easy work. That's why maids get paid so low.

5) It's easier..again, no school, work sucks, no pressure...not rocket science to cook or clean.

6) Kinda boring and not challenging.

7) If both couples work, they should work together to help with the household. If you a housewife, pretty dumb to expect a man to do the chores after a hard day of work. Women who nagg their husbands don't understand how hard it is to work day in and day out.

8) Men usually do enough. It's when women start nagging is when there are problems. There are a lot of a-hole men out there..but they're just a-holes..but they do enough.

[Mizz_Luv3r]

I'm not even going to lie, I need a man that'll cook and clean for me. I'm a princess sometimes. Lol!

[Tev]

^ ditto i friggin hate cookin & cleanin

[Paully]

Husband and Wife should work as a team. If only one works full time then naturally the one staying home should handle domestic stuff, regardless of gender. They have the same enemy, adult responsibilities, they should share the load and fill in when the other one can't.

As far as domestic stuff goes I'd rather do yard work.

[Icyfrozen]

If he were to paying for everything i've to stay home and work part time. Some of my coworker are like that. And I like that idea, hehe

[tuksuhew]

The roles have reversed in America. Men do the bitch jobs and women control us. That's why more and more men are leaving America to look for wives in Europe, Asia and elsewhere.

[RAZOR_BLADE]

I can't seem to put myself in a women's mind-set, so therefore I cannot answer your questions. However, I will add that I enjoy taking care of my lady, making life easier for her.

[leftear]

i didn't really read your thread, but i've always wanted to be a trophy husband

[kaze]

some of you guys spew so much crap.
really. you 'men', experiencing what you've experienced being a 'man', if i asked you, if given the choice to be reborn, would you choose to be reborn a woman?, 9 out of 10 times, the answer will likely be hell no. same deal, if asked to work a M-F, 9-5 job, OR be responsible for managing all aspects of taking care of the household 24-7 (cooking; cleaning; laundry; caring for the children; their homework; carpooling them), you'd likely answer i'd rather work the 9-5. Don't even start to preach you choose to out of the goodness of your heart, so you can take that burden away from your wife/SO, or you're better suited for that role. excuses excuses. bullshit.

my answer: in a heartbeat, i'd choose to be the breadwinner; that's easy compared to holding the house down. for me, i KNOW that working my 9-5 job is MUCH easier than having to do what my mom did to raise her children. ; and if i could be reborn again, i'd really heavily consider being born a man, just so i can cry about how hard it is to *try* to live up to the stereotyped expectations associated with being a man. boo hoo hoo, all these responsibilities and no appreciation from anyone; no one understands how hard it is to manage the checking account and go to work and still expected to fix lightbulbs..... but at least i'll have the courtesy to go cry TO MYSELF in a corner, instead preach that shit. like, really??

[Sary]

It would be nice if my hubby help me out from time to time. ^_^

[chillingrsx]

I don't what the big deal is. It seems like only the single makes these things a big deal. When you in a relationship, you automatically know what's your role is. Most important trait is to be flexible and help each other out. If your wife/gf is busy feeding the kid and u see the dishes in the sink, clean it. If your husband is busy fixing your car or fixing stuff in the house, be a good wife and cook for him. Its not about you do this and he/she must do that. Being in a relationship is like being one. Its not less manly or a slave to doing things for each other.

[k82562131]

I don't what the big deal is. It seems like only the single makes these things a big deal. When you in a relationship, you automatically know what's your role is. Most important trait is to be flexible and help each other out. If your wife/gf is busy feeding the kid and u see the dishes in the sink, clean it. If your husband is busy fixing your car or fixing stuff in the house, be a good wife and cook for him. Its not about you do this and he/she must do that. Being in a relationship is like being one. Its not less manly or a slave to doing things for each other.

you, sir, are probably in a good cohesive relationship.

[Ivan]

some of you guys spew so much crap.
really. you 'men', experiencing what you've experienced being a 'man', if i asked you, if given the choice to be reborn, would you choose to be reborn a woman?, 9 out of 10 times, the answer will likely be hell no. same deal, if asked to work a M-F, 9-5 job, OR be responsible for managing all aspects of taking care of the household 24-7 (cooking; cleaning; laundry; caring for the children; their homework; carpooling them), you'd likely answer i'd rather work the 9-5. Don't even start to preach you choose to out of the goodness of your heart, so you can take that burden away from your wife/SO, or you're better suited for that role. excuses excuses. bullshit.

my answer: in a heartbeat, i'd choose to be the breadwinner; that's easy compared to holding the house down. for me, i KNOW that working my 9-5 job is MUCH easier than having to do what my mom did to raise her children. ; and if i could be reborn again, i'd really heavily consider being born a man, just so i can cry about how hard it is to *try* to live up to the stereotyped expectations associated with being a man. boo hoo hoo, all these responsibilities and no appreciation from anyone; no one understands how hard it is to manage the checking account and go to work and still expected to fix lightbulbs..... but at least i'll have the courtesy to go cry TO MYSELF in a corner, instead preach that shit. like, really??

You make it sound like we have it so easy lol. Ladies, men struggle too. Understanding Men - Pressure of Being A Man Until one has walked in the other's shoes, it's not right to start assuming things. :/

Truthfully, the real reason why women are envisioned to be the housewife/domesticated one is because women in general are "the nurturer" kind. They are almost anatomically designed that way, hence why they carry the womb & give birth, rather than men. Also, being physically weaker while men are physically stronger, biologically tells itself that men are suppose to defend/protect & therefore, lead. I know as society progresses, the roles change/revolutionize itself...but even as much as we try to appease everyone...a man still is gonna ejaculate semen and a woman is gonna ovulate/bleed out of her vagina... Not trying to be sexist or offend, it's just human nature lol.

I know modern women look down on submissiveness, and I can't say I blame them. You ladies are probably tired being put down or deemed second place in society. If I was a woman, despite being chauvinistically underestimated or what not...I'd still be the best damn woman I can be, even if I am physically or socially repressed. And I won't ignore, abandon, or resent my womanly traits.

And yeah, of course when you're man & wife, you obviously should help each other out. That's common sense. But don't ignore the nature of what a man and a woman is.

[serendipity]

I think women prefer to be housewives because generally it's just an easier job compared to being the bread bringer. And since guys are already trained to be the leader of his clan, it's almost already expected of him to do it, hence looking for wives that are submissive. But in American culture/modern times, traditional ideals are starting to break apart and you'll find men doing lady things and ladies doing manly things.

But if you ask me personally, I'd want to be the bread bringer since I'm trained to do that and prefer my wife be the domesticated one. We'd both help each other out here and there, but overall, men are suppose to be the supporter while women are suppose to be the mommy. I'd feel uncomfortable if I was the domesticated one while my wife goes to work and take care of us all. :/

lol I mean, you'd eventually feel like a loser and sooner or later your woman won't respect you/leave you.

I don't ever want that to be the case.

Society's perspectives on domestic housewives are so flawed. Housewives are not given that much credit.

But thinking about the future...

I want to do a little bit of everything. I don't want to be put in the position of being labeled as the 'submissive housewife'. To me, that term sounds restricted. There's just so much I want to conquer in my lifetime. I want to be able to work, cook, clean, and watch after my children. It's life fulfilling to have that all balanced. I like cooking, but I love cleaning [everything must be organized in a particular way]. Children are a must, thanks to Jason who changed my mind [no he did not ask me to have children, just the thought of us having our own children together gives me butterflies lol...]

As for my husband, I would want him to do the same. I don't want to have to tell him what to do. He should already know his duties as a husband and father. Luckily, I can already tell he's going to be a good husband and father since he's so considerate of me and in everything that revolves around us <3

[SolidTypeSexy]

Cook and clean... Fuck that.

[T.Wizzle]

my bf cooks and takes care of most of the grocery shopping trips. i hate grocery shopping. as for cleaning, we split it.. he tries his best to help me out from time to time but usually only when things start piling up lol. i do most of the laundry. i'm also mrs. fix it and fix everything he breaks. electric, plumbing, etc.. i do it all. lol. weird. i grew up thinking and only up until recently always had this idea in my head that i wanted to work full time and raise a family when i get older. but honestly, now, as my child is growing, i would rather have my husband be the sole bread winner, give me an allowance, and let me take care of him and the household. i wouldn't mind being the typical housewife. but realistically, i know that's not going to happen. *sigh.. lol

[serendipity]

There's no option for all of the above as in I take pride and joy in working, cooking, and cleaning?

[LaReine]

we both take turns being the domestic house slave! turns me on when I know a man can do a women's work!

[serendipity]

we both take turns being the domestic house slave! turns me on when I know a man can do a women's work!

ditto!

[Theara Moeur]

If I can't do it he does & if he can't do it I do. We pretty much pick up on things the other wasn't able to get to.

[lydia]

I honestly don't mind working full time and coming home to cook and clean. As long as my fiancée picks up his damn ps3 remote then I'm fine. Lol

[LaoGuy]

Our mindset changes with age. As a youngin we were never taught how to treat our women since our fathers and uncles were never been taught by their fathers and uncles. Therefore, our mindset what ever it may be at the time towards the belief or norm in the household stems from whatever our fathers were doing or lack there of for our moms as far as household chores, raising the kids, etc.

Parents, housbands and wives who help each other out rather think like the old traditional ways are where women does all the work around the house has adapt and change with time. No need to feel like the man or king of your castle. As I have said, our mindset changes with time. Especially when you yourself becomes a father. If you treat your wife unfairly, think of how you would feel if a man treats your princess that way. Enough said.

I myself do everything.

[Mizz_Luv3r]

I honestly don't mind working full time and coming home to cook and clean. As long as my fiancée picks up his damn ps3 remote then I'm fine. Lol

Woman, you are crazy! That's unless he works too.

[VWAaron]

i would like to be a kept man