Forgiveness

[LaLa]

When someone hurt you or your love ones, how do you learn to forgive them? How do you let go of all the grudges and bitterness you have in your heart?

Feel free to share your stories. What happened? How long did it take for you to forgive? How?

[ChaiS]

i wont say a certain story but i know how hard it is to let go of hate from love one betraying you. i cant speak for you but for me i just pray every night to help heal THEM and me..u know despite the fact they do u wrong its always good to pray for forgiveness of people who hurt you or your enemies..i believe it all come back to u in karma. i just have to remind myself nobody is perfect but people who betray u most likely were betrayed themself at early age so they continue the cycle out of self hate for themselves



time heals all wounds..but amount of time is never certain it all depend on the situation & how sensitive the person was and how bad it was

[sSilentxstarzZ]

just HAD to share this song cuz the title made me think of it.

When someone hurt you or your love ones, how do you learn to forgive them? How do you let go of all the grudges and bitterness you have in your heart?

Feel free to share your stories. What happened? How long did it take for you to forgive? How?

Not sure whether or not this is good or bad, but I forgive too easily...in most situations, even when the person doesn't deserve it. I just can't harbor hatred in my heart for long. It feels refreshing to let things go. It'll make you a less bitter and more free-spirited person when there are no grudges keeping you from moving on.

^that's what I go by...and that's how/why I can forgive.

^^But no way in hell does this mean that I FORGET easily. That's a whole 'nother part of my brain which I have no control over, especially when it's over something negative.

[Ivan]

You can learn to not be mad at the person anymore, but disassociate yourself with them to teach them a lesson as well as prevent yourself from getting hurt again by this same person.

I used to really hate my dad for what he did to my mom & family,but after a while I found the resentment to be tiring and takes a lot of negative energy out of me, so I decided to accept who he is as a person and nothing can change what happened. But even as I forgive him, I personally choose to disassociate & disengage with those kind of people. I guess that's what it means to forgive but not forget. I don't hold any anger, bitterness or grudge/hate on him anymore, however I did took the incident as a lesson and make sure it will never happen again.

[LaLa]

i wont say a certain story but i know how hard it is to let go of hate from love one betraying you. i cant speak for you but for me i just pray every night to help heal THEM and me..u know despite the fact they do u wrong its always good to pray for forgiveness of people who hurt you or your enemies..i believe it all come back to u in karma. i just have to remind myself nobody is perfect but people who betray u most likely were betrayed themself at early age so they continue the cycle out of self hate for themselves



time heals all wounds..but amount of time is never certain it all depend on the situation & how sensitive the person was and how bad it was

Yeah, it does help to forgive the people that hurt you. It let them know that despite what they done, you can be the bigger person and forgive them. It's nice to live life and not have any bitterness in your heart. <3

[LaLa]

Not sure whether or not this is good or bad, but I forgive too easily...in most situations, even when the person doesn't deserve it. I just can't harbor hatred in my heart for long. It feels refreshing to let things go. It'll make you a less bitter and more free-spirited person when there are no grudges keeping you from moving on.

^that's what I go by...and that's how/why I can forgive.

^^But no way in hell does this mean that I FORGET easily. That's a whole 'nother part of my brain which I have no control over, especially when it's over something negative.

LOL, I guess it is a good thing that you forgive easily. The same with me, I tend to forgive easily especially when it comes to family members. I cannot hold grudges for long with the people I love.

People that I don't love, that's a different story..especially when their intention is to purposely hurt you. There are many cruel people in this world, and it could take time to forgive them, but forgetting about it might not be possible :/

[LaLa]

You can learn to not be mad at the person anymore, but disassociate yourself with them to teach them a lesson as well as prevent yourself from getting hurt again by this same person.

I used to really hate my dad for what he did to my mom & family,but after a while I found the resentment to be tiring and takes a lot of negative energy out of me, so I decided to accept who he is as a person and nothing can change what happened. But even as I forgive him, I personally choose to disassociate & disengage with those kind of people. I guess that's what it means to forgive but not forget. I don't hold any anger, bitterness or grudge/hate on him anymore, however I did took the incident as a lesson and make sure it will never happen again.

Ivan, I totally agree with you. Sometimes you gotta keep yourself away from the people that hurt you or your love ones cus you'll never know if they are capable of doing it again. You can forgive, but it doesn't mean you gotta forget what happened. And when you forgive, it doesn't mean their actions are retracted. I'm glad that you forgave your dad.. that takes a lot of courage which prob a lot of people wouldn't do.

[k82562131]

i forgive all the time...easily.

...but i'm really here to post my message: congrats to your baby. she looks so damn healthy now

[LaLa]

Thank you She's still up and active right now -_-

[gaykhmerguy]

It depends, but when somebody screws you over, you cut them off! Simple as that. We usually wander in the idea of forgiveness when we are scared to be alone.

[bubu]

for me it was hate that turned to love and now that love has turned to hate so it did a complete circle. at times i hate this person but i keep it to myself. i forgive all the time except for this one person. maybe in the next life but not this one.

[Asianlilly]

I forgive and forget easily if it's petty shit. However, I do hold a grudge if it's serious enough. I will go as far as cutting you off. If you didn't mind doing what affected me in the first place w/o thinking twice then you don't matter to me. we can be acquaintances instead of friends. No more heart to heart and only a KIT and a TTYL. I hardly burn bridges for good although it has happened.

[Toast]

I am easily a forgiven person...that's why I keep my wife by my side. lol. She's a pitbull when it come to protecting what's hers.