How do you deal with rejection?

[serendipity]

It was my junior year of high school. We had chemistry class together. Every time he walked into class to take his seat I could feel my heart smile. He sat two seats away from me. Each time he turned to smile and talk to me, I could feel my heart beat fast. He later found out that I had a crush on him. I had a crush on him for most of the school year (which seemed like forever then!). It was the same process every single day. My heart could barely sustain all the emotions that swirled up upon his presence. He knew I had a huge crush on him and yet he dated two of my (then) close friends (a month or two apart from each other) and rubbed it in my face. This was probably the most prominent memory of rejection I've had. I later got my revenge. I made him feel bad for what he did. It wasn't just rejection but he somewhat humiliated me in high school. I was the nice girl and he took me for granted. I was the one who greeted him to my guy friends (and now they're the best of friends). I was the one who gave him my notes when he missed class. I was the one who helped him on his chemistry equations...it was me, but he decided to rip my heart out of my chest and stomp all over it. The girls he dated broke his heart. A few years after high school he contacted me on Myspace (when it was cool then) and said he was sorry. He saw how well-rounded my life was. He apologized for the way he acted. He even wanted to give me a chance, but I turned him down. Today, I am a successful young woman and I've only got myself to thank. Revenge feels good when it's done right.

[Tidus]

Got rejected once. Accepted the truth. Moved on. its so simple!! I can see how one would be all broken up inside though...

[Khmer]

I usually replied I'm disappointed she didn't gave us a chance to get to known one another, good bye and not waste another breathe or thought on her ever.

Alway looking forward not back, rejection is blessing in disguised! I could never want anyone who don't want me. In my head, after a rejection I also reminded myself there are billions of single girls out there in this world.

Each rejection only help narrowed it down for me- until the most special feeling person did came along.

[Alynne]

If you're so beautiful, why do you get rejected as much as you do?

Beause Ivy is a beautiful delicate flower.

[Alynne]

^agrees with Doungjan- btw my niece is also a Sonita. Pretty name.

It's irrelevant to this thread but I've never had to deal with a rejection. BF n I been together since HS days. GODDAMN! That's a ass time long time. You can do the math. I'm 30 now.

I can tell you're an adorable 30.

[Ivan]

Best way to deal with rejection:



Keep it moving cuz time is money; onto the next honey.

[Alynne]

No experience of someone rejected me. But I do know how to reject a guy in a proper way. But if I get rejected, I will give it sometime and ask myself why. Later I might find we're not compatible because I'm too good for him. Lol
P.S: I'm full of self encouraged.

[Khmer]

Beause Ivy is a beautiful delicate flower.

Yeah, I roll around in someonce in the bushes camping, got a beautifuly delicate rosy rash from Poison Ivy!

[chanchan]

Walk it out

[Mali]

I didin't think I'd deal with rejection the way I do. Well I don't know how it feels to be rejected by a boy because I haven't cared long enough to have that happen to me. I have been rejected by someone else and it sucks. Some people have absolutely ridiculous reason to not like you/accept you...and it sucks. There is nothing I can do. That's the sad part. If there was a will and a way, I would try but there isn't. I cannot stand such illogical rejection!! It tears me apart inside =[.............makes me not want to take any risks ever again. We'll see how I handle this bump in my life, hopefully trying anyway and doing my best will gain me some acceptance. If not o_O man. My outlook on life is gonna be a bit screwed up.

[Ivan]

I didin't think I'd deal with rejection the way I do. Well I don't know how it feels to be rejected by a boy because I haven't cared long enough to have that happen to me. I have been rejected by someone else and it sucks. Some people have absolutely ridiculous reason to not like you/accept you...and it sucks. There is nothing I can do. That's the sad part. If there was a will and a way, I would try but there isn't. I cannot stand such illogical rejection!! It tears me apart inside =[.............makes me not want to take any risks ever again. We'll see how I handle this bump in my life, hopefully trying anyway and doing my best will gain me some acceptance. If not o_O man. My outlook on life is gonna be a bit screwed up.

I think I know what you're referring to. Now you kinda know how it feels like to reject someone based on some prejudice without even giving them a chance to prove themselves different of your opinions; much like the rants about religion I've rained down on you back in the day lol.

Anyway, you're a good kid and I believe they'll accept you once they meet you and see how good you treat him and others. And if he's as good as you say he is, your fam will accept him, too, regardless of what religion he caters to. If Good really triumphs all, you shouldn't stress your pretty lil' head. Plus, you're a fighter. I know Mali doesn't let this lil' obstacle get in her way of true love.

[Mali]

Besides that matter, lets talk about rejection from the opposite sex.

I know I was always ready to experience everything in life no matter how much it hurt but NAH I don't think I ever want to be rejected by guy. What if I die?? What if my heart turns black and I turn into a whore to fill the void??? What if I stalk him to get a piece of him if I can't have all of him? What if I turn so pathetic, so low, so less than what I want to be just to be near him? JUST so I wouldn't have to feel any rejection? Oh goodness...life is coming after me!! Help!

[Ivan]

If that happens, then you'd know how I felt when you rejected me lol.

[Mali]

Quit it haha. Don't make me feel responsible for something that never happened. You'll hurt me and throw me into depression. I'm a sensitive kid.

It makes me wonder if we all start being very serious and caring with people but because of all the hurt we endure we start to...get watered down perhaps? Like people less. Throw the word around more, give less meaning to it to protect ourselves. I hope I never become jaded haha. I want to live a life where I jump head first into everything. Love that about myself.

[chillingrsx]

Rejection? Please, I shake it off like I do with my salt shaker dance.

The people that said they never get rejected or doesn't know what it feels like is because they dont have the balls to approach that person.

Here how I see it, if you dont try, you don't know. If you try and she rejects you, now you know. And knowing is half the battle.

It's simple stuff. It's not like you ever see her again.

[Nobody]

A pump fake.

[Matique]

I've only been rejected in high school and that was when I was ugly. It sucked, made my self-esteem fall to the ground but I said eff them. Now that I've grown, guys are staring me down left and right and I haven't been rejected since. ALTHOUGH, a recent friend I've made (who's a dude) hasn't been returning my texts I'm not sulking, but damn he probably thinks I'm a weird.

[Somnang13]

Eat a few tub of ice cream and pout.

[Summer]

I'm not good with rejections, so I've never been able to put myself in a situation that requires rejection... THUS, never have I been rejected! lol.. it's probably better to just get over it, as I AM an adult..... I suppose .....

I will only go for it, if I know the guy likes me first lol.. I sound so teenager-esque

[youaintgangstah]

I've only been rejected in high school and that was when I was ugly. It sucked, made my self-esteem fall to the ground but I said eff them. Now that I've grown, guys are staring me down left and right and I haven't been rejected since. ALTHOUGH, a recent friend I've made (who's a dude) hasn't been returning my texts I'm not sulking, but damn he probably thinks I'm a weird.

so conceited lol

[Ivan]

Quit it haha. Don't make me feel responsible for something that never happened. You'll hurt me and throw me into depression. I'm a sensitive kid.

It makes me wonder if we all start being very serious and caring with people but because of all the hurt we endure we start to...get watered down perhaps? Like people less. Throw the word around more, give less meaning to it to protect ourselves. I hope I never become jaded haha. I want to live a life where I jump head first into everything. Love that about myself.

I'm telling you that you've hurted me and you don't even wanna believe it. See, this is why we fail, Mali.

[leftear]

rejection? piff, i don't leave the house. you can't reject someone you've never met.

[Pahok]

sooner or later u gotta venture out, lefty. i mean, can't spend ur whole life hiding from all ur admirers, can u?

[leftear]

i totally could! it's a dog eat dog world out there and the things they'll do to men like you or i! *shivers. the world is a scary place and as long as i have food, water and internet, i don't have to leave home

okay i lied, i actually do go out, but not as much and not to populated places.

sooner or later u gotta venture out, lefty. i mean, can't spend ur whole life hiding from all ur admirers, can u?

[Pahok]

lulz what would they do to us? but yea.. ditto whether i'm out for a few hours or a few weeks on vacay, i cant wait to ditch the lines, mobs and instead drive out to the most secluded beach or lake so as not to be 'rejected' by anything but society on whole.