"It turned out when she stated her commitment to get married, she only wanted to keep that between me and I for the time being."


Your opening sentence is weird.

I don't think LOVE is the right word you should be using, Boross. At least not at the moment. You're setting yourself up way too high up in the clouds.

In fact, Love has nothing to do with it. You're just talking to her so leave your crazy emotions out of it. Don't start throwing the word 'love' around. It's creepy.

Trust me.

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If it's not love, then what is this beating in my heart when her soothing voice over the phone. What is this rhythm flowing through my vein when I hear her say just the right words, that would melt the heart of any man if they had any?

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Can I be honest? I kinda have a feeling girls overseas will just marry anyone these days just to come to America. Play out the idea of you moving over there and see if she still wants to get married. Just lookin' out for you, bro.

Btw, does she only wanna keep this marriage/contract between you two...like secretive? o_O Try not to be biased for her and look at the bigger picture of what's going on here. Anyway, good luck!

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hmmm if she already made a 'commitment', why is there 'before she makes a final decision' (1st paragraph)

o well its arranged, done deal.

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Originally Posted by Boross_IT

If it's not love, then what is this beating in my heart when her soothing voice over the phone. What is this rhythm flowing through my vein when I hear her say just the right words, that would melt the heart of any man if they had any?

I think it's called infatuation and possibly loneliness with a tinge of desperation. Just sayin'.

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Originally Posted by Boross_IT

If it's not love, then what is this beating in my heart when her soothing voice over the phone. What is this rhythm flowing through my vein when I hear her say just the right words, that would melt the heart of any man if they had any?

That's your dick pulsating, not your heart. The reason why your heart is beating so fast is because its pumping all that God damn blood into your penis.

Normal people don't go FULL CRAZY on LOVE over a few telephone calls.

Keep a lid on it. You're going to turn into a blubbering fool by this time next week if you don't control yourself.

Moderate yourself. I'm not here to deter you. I'm glad you're getting somewhere.

And I do thank you for sharing this with us.

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Originally Posted by Ivan

Can I be honest? I kinda have a feeling girls overseas will just marry anyone these days just to come to America. Play out the idea of you moving over there and see if she still wants to get married. Just lookin' out for you, bro.

Btw, does she only wanna keep this marriage/contract between you two...like secretive? o_O Try not to be biased for her and look at the bigger picture of what's going on here. Anyway, good luck!

Could go either way, there are pros and cons to everything. You'd be surprised about the girls wanting to come to America. When I was down in Phnom Penh and bumped into a bar girl in sitting on a bench by the river in the early morning. She said she wants a white husband, but wants to stay in Cambodia (she originally thought I was white). I asked her why she didn't want to go overseas and she said because she likes it in Cambodia and her family is there.

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Originally Posted by klet

hmmm if she already made a 'commitment', why is there 'before she makes a final decision' (1st paragraph)

o well its arranged, done deal.

Final decision to the jas thom.

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Originally Posted by Boross_IT

If it's not love, then what is this beating in my heart when her soothing voice over the phone. What is this rhythm flowing through my vein when I hear her say just the right words, that would melt the heart of any man if they had any?

I think you're in love with the idea of having a beautiful wife and really wanting to settle down. She may be genuine with you as well, but right now you should focus on signs that may tell you otherwise, especially what her intentions are with you. Don't let emotions cloud your judgments, you might end up screwed afterwards. But if you don't mind and willing to take that risk, then you know nothing can stop you lol. As an advisor, I kinda have a feeling something's too good to be true here. I mean, let's be real...is it really that easy for any guy to get a beautiful girl to marry you without really knowing each other that well? There has to be a catch.

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That sounds kind of arrangement. Don't jump too quick to judge whether she or you're the one for one another for now since you two haven't really dated to assure that (from what you sound in this blog). Give it more time for each other to understand if it's really LOVE. Love is a big word. Anyways, good luck.

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Originally Posted by Socutemonie

I think it's called infatuation and possibly loneliness with a tinge of desperation. Just sayin'.

You're what's called infatuation and possibly lonliness with a tinge of desperation. LMAO. Just kidding.

Everything starts with a seed, and I can tell this seed of love between the other seeds which are being sown as we speak. When I say I love her even more, I never mentioned how much I loved her before. There is something there, to say it's impossible to exist after a few discussions is being ignorant.

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Is it possible to be in love with someone you still don't know well? Infatuation, yes. But love? Love is like a garden. It takes time to grow. It needs special attention and nourishment to blossom into something beautiful over Time. You can't force a plant to grow by giving too much water and sunlight. That's what I'm seeing in this blog. You're putting into this "relationship" wayy too much sunlight and water and in such a short amount of time. It's not ready yet. Perhaps this isn't love yet. But of course I can't speak for you.

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Originally Posted by Ivan

I think you're in love with the idea of having a beautiful wife and really wanting to settle down. She may be genuine with you as well, but right now you should focus on signs that may tell you otherwise, especially what her intentions are with you. Don't let emotions cloud your judgments, you might end up screwed afterwards. But if you don't mind and willing to take that risk, then you know nothing can stop you lol. As an advisor, I kinda have a feeling something's too good to be true here. I mean, let's be real...is it really that easy for any guy to get a beautiful girl to marry you without really knowing each other that well? There has to be a catch.

Thanks Adviser Ivan. For the time being she passed the first test: I offered to send her money and she refused, and stated to me how offended she was. I insisted it would be an act of kindness towards her, but she denied it. From what I can see right now, she's not concerned about my money. So for now she refuses to make it official with the parents.

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Originally Posted by Boross_IT

You're what's called infatuation and possibly lonliness with a tinge of desperation. LMAO. Just kidding.

Everything starts with a seed, and I can tell this seed of love between the other seeds which are being sown as we speak. When I say I love her even more, I never mentioned how much I loved her before. There is something there, to say it's impossible to exist after a few discussions is being ignorant.

Um, weird that you would turn it around on me, but ok, haha.

I think you're just being hopeful. I don't doubt that you do feel something towards her, but to say it's "love" or a "seedling of love", I think you're just deluding yourself into believing that's what it could be. I mean, whatever, it's your life. I wish you the best in your endeavor and I just HOPE that she shares the same sentiment as you, instead of her just saying it to just say it. Trust me, I've had my fair share of encounters with women from the motherland that claim they love the men that they marry, but in actuality they married them to gain a "life of luxury" here in the states. I'm just saying, proceed with caution.

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was she engaged before?

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Originally Posted by Alynne

That sounds kind of arrangement. Don't jump too quick to judge whether she or you're the one for one another for now since you two haven't really dated to assure that (from what you sound in this blog). Give it more time for each other to understand if it's really LOVE. Love is a big word. Anyways, good luck.

I'm following the advice of my co-worker who told me to keep my options open and to date other people. Apparently, my thinking was in line with a different century and that's just not how people roll anymore.

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Originally Posted by Ironfingers

was she engaged before?

She's never been with anyone before.

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blossoming, fruition, & maturation... so intriguing

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Originally Posted by Boross_IT

I'm following the advice of my co-worker who told me to keep my options open and to date other people. Apparently, my thinking was in line with a different century and that's just not how people roll anymore.

I am a bit confused now. I thought you are ready to settle down and commit to this lady in Cambodia, but you are following such advise?

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First of all.. Have you met her yet?

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Anyways, to make it sounds fair to the girl in Cambodia, you should view it in a big picture and please try not to judge her or be cautious just because she's from Cambodia. Of course, I understand bad experiences some guys from the states went through marrying girls from homeland. But, don't forget that such also applied to some girls from Cambodia who suffered the cheats from the states men.. like, after they moved to the states, the husbands used them as slave wives just to use their name to loan money, etc, cuz his is banned, work hard and pay off the bills, debts for him. So what's good about life in the states now? In short, it's two sides to be cautious. She also should be careful toward you the man half world away from each other. Never brag that you're from the states so it's easy to marry just any girl from Cambodia cuz they'll fall for you easily. Big MISTAKE. After all, love should be of mutual benefits either emotional or physical. Together for the better.

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Originally Posted by Alynne

Anyways, to make it sounds fair to the girl in Cambodia, you should view it in a big picture and please try not to judge her or be cautious just because she's from Cambodia. Of course, I understand bad experiences some guys from the states went through marrying girls from homeland. But, don't forget that such also applied to some girls from Cambodia who suffered the cheats from the states men.. like, after they moved to the states, the husbands used them as slave wives just to use their name to loan money, etc, cuz his is banned, work hard and pay off the bills, debts for him. So what's good about life in the states now? In short, it's two sides to be cautious. She also should be careful toward you the man half world away from each other. Never brag that you're from the states so it's easy to marry just any girl from Cambodia cuz they'll fall for you easily. Big MISTAKE. After all, love should be of mutual benefits either emotional or physical. Together for the better.

Sorry, Alynne, if I made it sound like all girls from Srok Khmer are like that. That was not my intention. I just meant to say for him to be careful and not be too quick to say it's love, especially since he hasn't met her yet. I mean no disrespect to anyone at all that is from Srok Khmer. I was just stating from my experiences with the many women I've encountered here. I really do apologize for my generalization.

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Awww bong Monie, what I really said above now? You no need at all to apologize since you did nothing wrong to do so. I fully understood your comment as well as others'. Also, I didn't intend my comment to anyone specifically but just a general thought of mine.

I think it's smarter to view her (Boross's bride to be) as a PERSON as a whole rather than the only one thing whether she wants to move to the states. Once he gets to know her enough to trust that she's the one, go for it. I believe no matter where you are, you can always fall in love. And if the person is the one, then she/he is the one. It's just a matter of time and open hearts.

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Originally Posted by Ha7cyon

That's your dick pulsating, not your heart. The reason why your heart is beating so fast is because its pumping all that God damn blood into your penis.

Normal people don't go FULL CRAZY on LOVE over a few telephone calls.

Keep a lid on it. You're going to turn into a blubbering fool by this time next week if you don't control yourself.

Moderate yourself. I'm not here to deter you. I'm glad you're getting somewhere.

And I do thank you for sharing this with us.

You know yourself better than I do. Did I anywhere in the article say I went FULL CRAZY on LOVE over a few telephone calls? Your mind is already jumping to conclusions based on a line that says "I love her even more now..." It's all relative, but apparently, your conclusions are over-exaggerated. Get real.

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Originally Posted by klet

blossoming, fruition, & maturation... so intriguing

I'm at the euphoria/energy stage.

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Originally Posted by Ironfingers

I am a bit confused now. I thought you are ready to settle down and commit to this lady in Cambodia, but you are following such advise?

keeping my options open part, until we come to mutual agreement and can make it official with the parents. I haven't decided on the dating other people part.

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Being honest with u ok. Now I dont know much about Canada but I have to say the US is way better. Lets say u had a twin brother living in the states. Would she prefer him instead. Thats just a subject u could talk with her about

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Originally Posted by Boross_IT

You know yourself better than I do. Did I anywhere in the article say I went FULL CRAZY on LOVE over a few telephone calls? Your mind is already jumping to conclusions based on a line that says "I love her even more now..." It's all relative, but apparently, your conclusions are over-exaggerated. Get real.

"I love her even more now" really says it all. It's not love. Love isn't something that is accessible right from the get-go.

Don't confuse it as love. You're just infatuated at the moment. But stop calling it LOVE. It cheapens the meaning.


Talking on the phone is not LOVE. It's lust, infatuation, curiosities...

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Originally Posted by Ha7cyon

"I love her even more now" really says it all. It's not love. Love isn't something that is accessible right from the get-go.

Don't confuse it as love. You're just infatuated at the moment. But stop calling it LOVE. It cheapens the meaning.


Talking on the phone is not LOVE. It's lust, infatuation, curiosities...

Like I said, you know yourself better than anyone else, but please stop trying to sound like an expert and pretend you know everything there is between human connections.

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Originally Posted by Boross_IT

Like I said, you know yourself better than anyone else, but please stop trying to sound like an expert and pretend you know everything there is between human connections.

Never said I was an expert. I've experienced it many times before, and I've seen too much of it from others I know around it.

You're quite stubborn about it. I guess we're mostly wrong about how you feel if that is how you feel.

Everyone here is saying the same thing but you singled me out.

You're infatuated with this girl. Is it wrong to point that out? It isn't love. At least not yet. Hopefully for your sake, it steers in that direction.

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When I look at some of the ladies' photos on here, I am in love...

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Originally Posted by Ivan

When I look at some of the ladies' photos on here, I am in love...

Ivan's in love with the color yellow. And I'm in love with the color blue. What color do you love, Boross_IT?

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NO. I don't love yellow no more. She's mean.

Looks like Borros likes yellow now

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I see it's reasonable what Ha7 said it's not love. He's trying to point your lackage in personal quality times with the girl- activities out together for some extended periods of time, to call it's love. Maybe not just yet.

Originally Posted by Ha7cyon

You're infatuated with this girl. Is it wrong to point that out? It isn't love. At least not yet. Hopefully for your sake, it steers in that direction.

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to her u r just a foreigner that can fulfill her dreams with bright days and sparkled nights...I wish u the best!

I, too, wanna know what love is but it will take more than a few phone calls before I fall head over heels...maybe like 5 calls

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does anyone else think Boross' fiancee is a Sokun Nisa doppleganger?

http://www.flickr.com/photos/4053727...n/photostream/

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Boro, you never answered my question. Have you met her yet, or how much time you spent with her in real life already?

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Well by his profile picture it looks like they've met already, but truth be told she's using you to get to the land of "freedom." Yes words flow through you vein pumps when you hear her say right words, but maybe, just maybe you're desperate? It's like when the hot chick in high school comes to talk to you, don't your heart beat faster. Be careful.

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Originally Posted by klet

does anyone else think Boross' fiancee is a Sokun Nisa doppleganger?

http://www.flickr.com/photos/4053727...n/photostream/

I'm pretty sure that's a photo of sokun nisa when she had a concert in canada

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Originally Posted by Qua

Being honest with u ok. Now I dont know much about Canada but I have to say the US is way better. Lets say u had a twin brother living in the states. Would she prefer him instead. Thats just a subject u could talk with her about

If you don't know much about Canada, how can you say the US is better? Hmm... :/

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I remember you said she already seen you, but didn't know if it's picture-wise or in person. I don't know how Boro looks like.. and I don't know how his girlfriend looks like.. And there is photoshop.

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When you're married, you inherit all the debt and asset together. Developed countries are credited society. Everything is owed and repay back later. Everything a person own isn't always bought out right like in srok khmer. The way you said that the girl is being used as a slave and pay bills sound like some sort of delusional . Most srok khmer people view srok Americ similar to what they depict from a movie scene. If you expect to sit on your ass with your thump up your butt, you better think twice about ambition.

As for cheating, don't even go there. Do you think most of those girls kept their promajareay for their future hsuband? The fact that they got pregnant shows that they are willing and purposely getting pregnant. Why hadn't they take precaution like with their personal affair? Think about their ambitions.

This is why I always empathize to people who seek love abroad to either stay single or find someone here instead.

Originally Posted by Alynne

Anyways, to make it sounds fair to the girl in Cambodia, you should view it in a big picture and please try not to judge her or be cautious just because she's from Cambodia. Of course, I understand bad experiences some guys from the states went through marrying girls from homeland. But, don't forget that such also applied to some girls from Cambodia who suffered the cheats from the states men.. like, after they moved to the states, the husbands used them as slave wives just to use their name to loan money, etc, cuz his is banned, work hard and pay off the bills, debts for him. So what's good about life in the states now? In short, it's two sides to be cautious. She also should be careful toward you the man half world away from each other. Never brag that you're from the states so it's easy to marry just any girl from Cambodia cuz they'll fall for you easily. Big MISTAKE. After all, love should be of mutual benefits either emotional or physical. Together for the better.

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I think you should take a month or two off and spend time with her in Cambodia. What's the rush?

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